Today has been a horrible day! It has been an emotional day! I have cried so many times throughout the day. A new page is being written in our lives. My grandparents are 90 and 89. A few years ago my grandfather's health started to decline. He has just continued to go downhill. We went down a few weeks ago and knew that it wouldn't be long before my grandmother was no longer able to care for them in their home. They did have some help coming in Monday through Friday from 8-3 but it just was wearing my grandmother out.
Last Wednesday my grandfather had a stroke and was taken to the hospital. He has lost the use of his right side and is not going to be able to come back home. Normally this wouldn't be a problem...you just place him in a nursing home. Well, there we run into 3 problems....1)my grandmother doesn't need to be in a nursing home, 2)my grandmother is no longer able to drive and 3)their house is in the middle of no where and I am not joking....they live 25 miles from town! So the problem is her being able to visit him daily if they stay where they are. We knew the day was coming when they were going to have to either move to Memphis where my aunt lives or here where my mom is. We prayed they would come here but sadly they decided to go to Memphis :( It broke my heart as we would love to have them here. My mom would love to be able to help her mom and both my sister and I would be here to help as well.
My grandfather doesn't want to go to a nursing home....he has begged my grandmother not to take him to one. It is breaking her heart to have to do this to him. It has hard for me to think of my grandfather as not being the hard working farmer that he was for so much of my life. I have so many wonderful memories of following him all over the farm whether it be out on the tractor looking at his crops or feeding the pigs. I am so glad that my children know their great grandparents...Taylor and Caleb more than Madison as Madison was just a baby when my grandfather got sick.
We are planning to go and see them Labor Day Weekend. It could be the last time we see them and sadly I didn't get a picture of him with the kids when we were down there. They are very sad about this too....Madison doesn't really know too much of what is going on but Taylor and Caleb do. They both have cried a few times this afternoon.
These pictures were taken back in April right after my grandmother came home from a brief hospital stay. She looks so tired here but still beautiful in my eyes :)
My beautiful grandmother with the kids 
My grandmother and I back in April...please ignore my blotching face as I had been crying (I have always cried when we leave her)
My mom with her mother
Monday, August 23, 2010
My Grandparents
Posted by Holly Aytes at 9:22 PM
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Cherish every moment and picture and memory... it's so so so hard to lose grandparents. *sigh* I'm sorry they're so far away from you now.
Holly, I'm so sorry you've had such a sad day. I'm sure those tearful days are not over yet. Know that I will pray for peace and comfort for you and your family. I will pray for your grandparents as they make this huge adjustment in their lives, too. I'm so thankful for all the time you've had with them. I love the pictures you shared.
That's a great pic of Mom in her nightgown! haha!
So sorry Holly! :(
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandparents. It is so tough when they are far away. I was so blessed that my grandmother spent the last 3 years of her life with my parents. My children would have never known her if she hadn't stayed with them. Because she did, both girls got to spend precious times with her. You are so blessed with a wonderful family and I know you will all gain strength from each other during this difficult time. We are praying for you and your grandparents.
AWWW! I am sorry Holly! I wish they would come up there too! Will your aunt be good for them? I know Memphis wont be! Bless their hearts!
I remember your grandparents coming to visit when we lived there.. sWill keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. Give my best to your parents...
Holly, you have been so blessed to have such a close relationship with your grandparents. I think that is wonderful! I've lived far away from mine for a long, long time now...but I cherish those days when we lived right down the road from them when I was a kid. Thanks for sharing...you can always call if you need to!
It's just so hard, there is no way around it. Just cherish the time you have and be so thankful your children got to know them. My boys never knew my dad's parents b/c they both passed when I was in college. I miss them everyday. I'll be praying for your family.
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